Friday, August 7, 2009

Oh, Great! Every blogger has this entry!

You've seen the papers yesterday and today? Something related to what and where we're labeled with.

Yesterday's news: Population of foreigners more than a million.

** Assessment: so now the numbers matter? And they plan to do what?

More news from yesterday: A training program for foreign wives who had never worked in a professional career. The training consists of office management, the sorts.

** Assesment: The country's praparing for the inevitable: more foreign workers. As the number of foreign wives increase, so does the pressure of keeping them well in the society. If giving them a career will, then they would.

reijene blues: although.. i highly doubt that. if you put me in an office to work as a secretary, an office assist, or as a receptionist, where everybody speaks korean and the office etiquettes are different from what we're used to, i'd be more stressed. As i have worked for a korean before, i am aware of the things they're expecting... how about this training course for the women who don't have a day's worth of professional experience? is it going to instruct them how to deal with a korean boss? how a korean boss only expects and not say anything, and that if you screw up, there wouldn't be a fair warning you just get terminated? i wouldn't know. i'm not planning to attend it... although it sounds interesting, the proposal just insulted the intelligence of the foreign wives.

Today's News: The Korean Government is offering 1 million won to a korean spouse who wants to marry a foreigner after completeing a 20-hour course (and it does sound weird). The course is to prepare the 'korean". The purpose of that money? To help pay for their nuptial ceremony. Oh, great!

A pointed this one out... PREPARE FOR WHAT? They're bringing in a foreign body (spouse)here. the foreign body will need more assisstance, duh? if you will tell me that there are already some societies for that, i say: sure. societies done in what language?

reijene blues: Korean men are not as complicated as you think. They're just like any other men. When they want sex, then go have sex with them. If you don't want to have sex, i dont know what to say because i like sex. I haven't had those days... not yet =P... If they need their dinner, give them their dinner. After that, hand them the remote control if you want them off your hands. Or give them the computer (or laptop) if you only have one. If you get lonely, instead of stewing on your bile, go be creative. There are a lot of things that can be done. Unless, of course, you're like me, extremely paranoid with a log up your ass.

As every marriage, the first couple years are the most testing. You do not expect your marriage to be perfect from... maybe after honeymoon. There's an adjustment period, and adjusting in another country, AFTER getting married is one of the most challenging task ever. From culture to food, language and customs, everything will put a strain into your new life. Unless, your husband (or wife) has patience the size of his (or her) country, then rocky road will start rockin.

My marriage? It suffered from the same strain. We're no angels, and neither one of us had patience the size of our motherlands, but we learned how to compromise... bit by bit. The same WORD would be needed, not some 20-hour program to "prepare" these men. That program will not teach them english, or another medium of communication. That program will not give them patience if their wives fail to meet their expectations.

Unless, the 20-hour curriculum will include brainwashing so they'd become better men.

2 comments:

arvinsign said...

"A pointed this one out... PREPARE FOR WHAT? They're bringing in a foreign body (spouse)here. the foreign body will need more assisstance, duh? if you will tell me that there are already some societies for that, i say: sure. societies done in what language?"

-- Yes, i think the Korean government is very active on similar kind of programs.

-- What language? It needs to be in Korean of course, you are in Korea anyway, you married a Korean, and you have kids that are half blooded Koreans, and perhaps a Korean citizenship. Remember also, that not all foreign spouses here in Korea can speak (or are conversant in) English (including Filipinos). Check the stats.

"Korean men are not as complicated as you think. They're just like any other men. "

-- Generalizing korean men? Hmmm i dont think its good. But of course, i heard thousands of stories that many Korean hubbies are like stones and very cold. But it goes the same way with having an American, European, Asian hubby etc. Perhaps you can say it like this...All men are not complicated and insanely boring (except ehem):)

-- So many factors btw, one is age gap. If you marry someone older than you by at least 10 years....then dont expect too much romance. Its a natural law, either you marry a Korean or a Pinoy. Second, culture...maybe its their culture as well as physiology. They (Koreans) are probably genetically designed to be stagnant by the time they reach a certain age. And last, the wives should asked themselves with questions like " Am i being treated fairly in this house (on same equal footing as the hubby) ? " Is my hubby a die hard Confucius fan, therefore believes in a patriarchal society?" and last and most important question " Is this really the right guy for me? Does he really want a wife, or he just wants someone to give him children, prepare kimchi for him, and take care of his parents? "

"Unless, the 20-hour curriculum will include brainwashing so they'd become better men."

-- Talking about brainwashing, the Unification church aka Moonies aka arvinsign's most hated cult is very much involved in brainwashing. And a very effective one.

reijene said...

Remember also, that not all foreign spouses here in Korea can speak (or are conversant in) English (including Filipinos). Check the stats.

that's why i asked. It's not possible for anybody from any country to converse in a language they barely know. Specially if they get lonely and they'd been here for less than... two, three months. i've been here for almost four years and i barely speak the language.

All men are not complicated and insanely boring

ugh... don't let the other male bloggers here see that.